I know I haven't posted much on here lately, and I wanted to apologize for that. The reason is that my girlfriend was diagnosed with breast cancer about a month ago. Now its down to D-day, tomorrow is the surgery, and I'm not sure how I feel about all this. I have people I can talk to, but its always nice to have an outlet to just speak in. No one here really knows me, but I'm sure there are a few people, at least, who have had this disease touch their lives. It's hard to be strong for both us, but I know for her I have to do that. I love her and would do anything to make sure she is OK. This is just another test that life throws at us. Fortunately she detected it soon enough for the doctors to save her life. But she is only 30 years old, that is too young to be dealing with breast cancer. Well, I'll probably be offline for a few days, so until I return keep up the excellent work on the site, and keep the new members coming. Thanks for listening (reading) what I had to say.


Tobin

I really feel for you Tobin and my heart went out to you when I read that. As me and my wife are 31 I sat here and wondered what I would do if we were going through that and I really don't know. I'd be strong for her on the outside but torn to pieces on the inside. Are thoughts will go out to you and your family. May god be with you and everything be ok.

I know I haven't posted much on here lately, and I wanted to apologize for that. The reason is that my girlfriend was diagnosed with breast cancer about a month ago. Now its down to D-day, tomorrow is the surgery, and I'm not sure how I feel about all this. I have people I can talk to, but its always nice to have an outlet to just speak in. No one here really knows me, but I'm sure there are a few people, at least, who have had this disease touch their lives. It's hard to be strong for both us, but I know for her I have to do that. I love her and would do anything to make sure she is OK. This is just another test that life throws at us. Fortunately she detected it soon enough for the doctors to save her life. But she is only 30 years old, that is too young to be dealing with breast cancer. Well, I'll probably be offline for a few days, so until I return keep up the excellent work on the site, and keep the new members coming. Thanks for listening (reading) what I had to say.


Tobin

We'll be praying for you & your girlfriend. Stay strong and positive for her to help her speedy recovery.

I said a prayer for you and her!!! May God Bless

Gregg

Tobin,
we will be praying for you guys here also. My wife had to have her entire colon removed about 7 months ago due to colon cancer. Stay strong and listen to the doctors advice on everything. Tell her there are a lot of people thinking about her.
M4ck

Tobin,

we will be praying for you guys, too!

Hang in there Tobin. You, your girlfriend, and her doctors will be in our families prayers. I look forward to your next post, and I have no doubt it will be good news.

My best thoughts to you and your girlfriend. Update us when you can.

Best wishes to both of you and to a speedy recovery.

Why does it seem like bad things allways happen to good people. You and your girlfriend well be in my prayers.

Thank you all for your support, you can never have enough of that in a situation like this. I'll be sure to post an update when I get a chance.

My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your girlfriend. She'll need you now more than ever. Remember that if she tries to push you away.

Well ... lemme tell ya about my mom ...

In 1974, they first found a malignant lump in her right breast ... and they did a radical mastectomy (spelling?) on the right side ....

Even after two years ... she checked "clear" ... and even though they say you have to go five years to be sure ... it seemed pretty evident that she had kicked death's a$$ ...

On December 1, 1976, she was hit head on by a 10 ton flatbead truck who never rolled out of a turn and met her in her lane ...

She was trapped in the car for two hours as rescue crews worked tirelessly to free her ...

She lost her spleen, a kidney, her right kneecap, had a broken leg, broken arm, broken jaw, several broken ribs, punctured right lung, and a myriad of other injuries ... she spent 21 days in intensive care ... and came home on Christmas Eve ...

It took a long time for recovery ... but she did recover as much as possible ... she had kicked death's a$$ again ...

In 1979, they found a malignant lump in her left breast ... just inside that magic 5 year window ...

They took it completely as well ... and five years later, ten years later, and even twenty years later ... she remained cancer-free ... she had kicked death's a$$ a third time ...

In 2000, she was diagnosed as having colon cancer and they removed virtually all of her sigmoid colon ...

She doesn't get as much warning now when she has to go to the bathroom ... but other than that, she lives a full and healthy life ...

She had kicked death's a$$ for a fourth time ...

John Wayne only managed to do that three times ...

She knows the SOB will get her one day ... she's just gonna make him "earn" it ...

Keep the faith ... NEVER GIVE UP !!

:D

Tobin,

Our hearts and our prayers go out to your and your girlfriend. She is lucky to have someone like you in her life to stick with her through the hard times.

Be sure to give us updates. I know that this is not something that is will just go away quickly.

If you or your girlfriend need anything, just let us know.

Stay tough.

Matt

our thoughts and prayers are with you, be strong, be positive!

Tobin
All I can say is that if you need to talk to anyone I am a stay at home housewife. I know what you are dealing with. My mother in law battle breast cancer for 4 years and just past away last June. So if you need anything just pm me and I can give you my number to talk.

Tobin, I think you can be assured the thoughts and prayers of all CT members will be with you. I wish you and her the best of luck. Stay strong man, and know we are here if you need to vent!

Hi Tobin,

I don't believe we've met, but I'm M4ck's wife. I just wanted to let you know that I'll be keeping your girlfriend in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry to hear this. If she should ever need someone to talk to, please PM me and I will be happy to give her my number, or I'm happy to call her. I'm keeping both of you in my thoughts and prayers.

You mentioned in your other thread that you are emailing updates, and I'd like to be added to the list if that's okay... My email is ashleymccall@charter.net .

God Bless You Both.

Again, thank you all for your support and prayers, I was talking with M4ck and his wife earlier, and decided that it would be a good idea for me to post a picture of Jen, my girlfriend, and I on here so that everyone can see who they are actually supporting. I know it helps a great deal to be able to put a name to a face. I should have it posted in a couple hours.

OK, the picture has been uploaded, its not the best resolution, but at least you can all see who we are now. :lol:

No picture, try it again.

I believe this is the pic he is talking about.
http://www.clubtitan.org/modules/coppermine/albums/userpics/10812/normal_party.JPG

Thanks Bixll that is the one I was referring to, I didn't think to attach it to the thread. And NO, I'm not a pimp, it was for a Christmas/End of Year party at work. :twisted:

And NO, I'm not a pimp

Yeah, right! I see that grin saying "hehehe, wouldn't you like to be me"!

Well that grin is there, but it's because of my awesome shoes, and of course the beautiful woman next to me. :D

Wow your girlfriend is beutiful Tobin, Hope her recovery is going well and she gets better soon.
:blowkiss:

Tobin,

Thanks so much for sharing your picture with us. You two make a great couple :) How is your girlfriend doing, by the way?? I hope her recovery is going alright. Major surgery is a really tough thing to go through. I sure never thought I'd be having my colon removed at age 32. I am so thankful for M4ck. He has been by my side through it all. It makes recovery easier to have somebody who cares there to support you. I am very blessed. And I know your girlfriend feels the same way about you, too :) God Bless You Both, and please do keep us posted on how she is doing!!

...And NO, I'm not a pimp, it was for a Christmas/End of Year party at work. :twisted:LOL - Darn, you just killed the jokes I was about to come up with about those shoes. But seriously, I hope and pray her future is full of nothing but improvements. You're a good man for recognizing the importance of being supportive while knowing you would also have to battle with the stress the situation is having on you. All-in-all, it is definitely not something anyone should have to go through alone.

Prayers for you too MrsM4ck.

To answer the last two posts, she is doing much better, for it being 6 days since her surgery. She is even planning on going out and running a couple errands today. I know better than to try and tell her "no", so I told her to call me if she needs anything. But you are right, this situation is very hard to deal with, and it doesn't help that she is only 30, and I'm only 25. But my outlook on this is, if we are going through something like this at our young ages, we can handle just about anything life will throw at us in our later years. It's easy to be supportive of someone you love, that doesn't require much thought. Yet, for all of you here who only know me by a picture and my words, I truly appreciate all your support, that is what makes the biggest difference.